Pinay mom parenting her Caucasian/Filipino daughter in suburban America.
Or so, Mary says.
As part of our family’s intention to lead a healthier lifestyle, I had consciously made a few changes to our family’s eating habits, which began New Year’s Day.
And one of them is that food will only be eaten in the kitchen, at the table, nowhere else in the house. All meals, including snacks.
Throughout our 6 1/2 years of marriage, with differing work schedules, one or the other or both being in the same or different diet at any one time, mealtimes had not been on any regular schedule or even remotely to a routine. I grew up with breakfast being ready at the table from 6-8 am, lunch at exactly 12 noon, supper at 6:00 pm. Except during parties (which was always a buffet affair), everybody sits down at the table at the same time for lunch and supper. Jack’s childhood was not as rigid with mealtimes. And then, when I lived on my own, in New York, Vancouver, etc, when I was single, I mostly ate in front of the television.
So, no major effort was made to have a family sit-down everyday or at least, when everyone was home.
Not, anymore. I am laying down the law. All meals will be eaten at the table, whether it’s one of us or all of us. Dinner, especially will be a sitdown affair “family-style.”
So far, Mary is not taking it well. Lunchtime, she was telling me that it was a boring, stupid rule. She had so gotten used to watching TV and having food whenever she wanted.
Any ideas on how to better effect this rule?
Mary is my "I'm Not a Baby!" daughter and this is my blog about her and our life in suburban America. Parenting tales, our travels and travails, forays into great and not-so-great restaurants, kitchen adventures--- all chronicled with as much photos as you can stand. Comments are very much appreciated --- let me know you dropped by! Thank you.
Sadie
January 7th, 2008 at 7:31 pm
If you figure anything out, let me know. We are also of the pigging out in front of the TV type of family. It’s been easier to feed the girls there and I’ve never done any different. We have made the conscious effort in the past two weeks to actually MAKE a family dinner…and then to have EVERYONE in the room…including the babies (er…toddlers). IT’s been an effort…but it’s paid off in the end. It’s just taking a LOT to get used to it. We’re still working on doing lunch like that.
~*~ Jennifer ~*~
January 8th, 2008 at 6:41 am
I don’t have any suggestions — but we try to do this… because it saved the carpet. LOL
I hope you get it right — I think it’s a good idea. The adults always eat faster than the kiddos around here. In the evenings Dad will read “Keys for Kids” as a family devotion time… while they finish up eating. Maybe you can add in a new fun routing - like read aloud time - to replace the TV, or something…??
Mary!! Don’t be so contrary!
(OK… I bet she’s heard that a million times… sorry!)
Sweet Life With Mary » Blog Archive » Stupid Rule: Part II
January 8th, 2008 at 10:47 am
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raqgold
January 8th, 2008 at 12:33 pm
here’s something, once a month, we try to change our dining area. sometimes we create a picnic atmosphere in the living room and eat there just like having a picnic. that would be something to look forward to for the girls, so they have stopped munching too much in the living room or else the picnic day would have to be cancelled
KK aka Tina
January 9th, 2008 at 1:09 pm
I totally agree wit that rule Mary’s Mom. I still let my daughter her snacks in front of the TV. But mealtimes specially dinner is always at the table. I’m stricter at no eat in the bedrooms.